I MUST MARRY!

        Let's talk about MARRAIGE!!! Yes this word is seen as the essential rite of any living being before they go back to baba God.Lets face reality,some are lucky with it while others are well..not so lucky.I was gisting with my sister and this story came up so I decided to share with you guys...
        There's this aunty of mine that wanted to get married some few years back.She was in her late 20's and well all her friends were taken and she wanted to be taken too! My mum tried to hook her up with every single man she knew but my aunty will always come back with various excuses(he snores,he's a pastor,his kini is too big etc).Luckily for her she found someone! Errm I dunno how they did it oh,she got pregnant barely one month after meeting this man.Yes he didn't deny the baby,he agreed to marry her and wedding preparations started.My aunty's parent lived in the village so the wedding had to be done in the village(and you know all this villages where everyone knows eachother).Few weeks into the wedding,the supposed husband started acting up,he started womanizing and when my aunty tries to confront him he'll beat her up like that was his hobby,he stopped picking her calls and would only call when he felt like it! My aunty came to tell my mum about the new development and my mum advised her to just do an engagement ceremony and let the church wedding be till everything was cleared up! But my aunty refused oh! Even her parents refused! Their excuse was 'ehn we have told everyone in the village,we can't be put to shame,she must do the wedding,God will reboot his head and yeah she was still pregnant.Few days to the wedding,my guy showed up again(atleast he didn't embarass his bride totally).Even with the fact that he showed up,my aunty was out of love already and the marraige was more like an obligation.
      On the wedding day,one could easily see the sorrow In her face and everyone was screaming at her to cheer up.She was a sorrowful bride,the groom pretended as if nothing was wrong(isn't that what the male folks are good at)they did the traditional wedding and the church wedding that day.She followed her husband's family home after the wedding because that was the normal procedure..but to everyone's surprise she ran back to her father's house the next day,she picked her things and ran to our house in Lagos! She didn't even do honeymoon chai! This was a typical case of love gone sour! My mum begged and persuaded her to go to her husband's house and try to work things out since she was already married to him.Two weeks later she agreed to go back! Everyone was happy for her thinking she'll finally get to enjoy her marriage.Na lie oh... Her pregnancy too was growing and getting bigger so was her suffering in her husbands house.This man would beat her up at any slight mistake and accused her of tying him down with the pregnancy.The one this man did that pained me to the bone marrow was his sister that he brought home to live with them! My aunty would cook and clean up after his sister.One unfortunate day,she was heading to the market but she forgot her purse at home so she had to go back home to get it,when she got home what she saw was jaw dropping and eyes popping....she saw her husband and supposed sister in law doing kerewa! Yes they were pounding eachother like deir lives depended on it! It turned out the 'sister' was his girlfriend and he brought her home to live with them! She got angry and started causing a scene(if to say she know she for just carry her purse they go jejely) he grabbed her and tied her hands behind her and flogged her thoroughly with a broom! Yes he dealt with his pregnant wife because of his girlfriend.
       Finally,it was time for her to give birth and as usual her husband didn't even show up he went away without a care in the world! He came back before the baby christening just so he could give his daughter a name.He didn't want to have anything to do with the mother or the baby...when the baby was a year old,my aunty finally had the courage to file for a divorce,they got divorced and that was the end of that marraige!
       The pressure society,family and friends gives shouldn't push us into making life threatening decisions.Marraige isn't something one should rush into just because everyone is getting married.She saw the signs from scratch but she still went ahead all because she wanted to be addressed as a 'MRS' Dear sir/ma,I know waiting could be tiring but just see it as God preparing you for the best.Try to live life to the fullest and work on been a better person.....